The End of Date Kiss
One of the hardest things for guys to do is know when to make their move at the end of a date. This changes the more experienced you get with women, but if you're just starting out or getting back into the dating scene, knowing when to go in for a kiss could be a difficult prospect.
Understand that knowing if and when a woman is ready to be kissed comes down to one thing - observation.
You need to be aware of the woman's body language and behaviors, because these will be the things that give you the clues to proceed.
Here is what to look for:
1. Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
2. If you're not quite sure on the status of things -- for example if you can't really tell if her reluctance is due to shyness (but she likes you) or disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to initiate some physical contact.
3. Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you into her personal zone. Casually initiate touching her by putting your arm around her waist. If she hugs up on you a little, that's a great sign! If she cringes, she's probably not comfortable enough with you to kiss.
4. Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear uncomfortable and looks away, refusing to hold eye contact? If she goes along with what you're doing, she's in rapport with you. If she's not, then you haven't built up a strong enough connection yet.
The basic point I'm trying to make here is that you can get a good read on her emotional state by casually putting her into some situations where she cannot avoid giving you some body language signals about her feelings for you -- either positive or negative.
Once you've analyzed the situation and you think it's okay to kiss her, then square up to her and just kiss her. Don't try and sneak it in. Do everything deliberately. Don't say anything unless it is unusually profound or funny.
Remember - confidence is key here! Even if you're nervous about kissing her, try and act as confident as you can. A meek, hesitant kiss is a big turn off. You need to show her your intentions when you go in for the kiss!
Whatever you do, NEVER ASK a woman if you can kiss her! That ruins the mood and magic of the moment. Pay attention to her body language and see if you're getting the green lights to make your move. If you're not getting the right signals, don't push it! Back off, because you have to create more comfort with her before you can proceed.
Girls rate that first kiss as an important indicator. Not only is that kiss indicative of your confidence and sexuality, it is also a precursor to a woman knowing if you'll be a good lover or not! If you make your move at the appropriate time, and do it assertively yet smoothly, then you'll score some big points.
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